I know it’s already 2018 but who can forget this statement of Nadine Lustre when asked about living together with her boyfriend, James Reid.
“There are younger couples — mas young pa sa akin [who are already living together]. “It’s normal na eh. Come on, guys, it’s 2017!”
There is a steady rise on young adults cohabitating without the commitment of marriage. I’m certain you know at least one who is in such situation.
If you’re considering it too, moving in with your partner is one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make. I also would like to stress the importance of marriage before doing such. Not only you will have a firm foundation. You are sure that both of you are fully committed and your relationship reflects how God intended it to be.
Anyway, how do you know it’s the right time to move in?
Property website Lamudi Philippines shares with us these five sure signs:
You’re past the honeymoon phase.
Almost all relationships start the same: Everything’s perfect, you don’t fight, and you’re head over heels for each other. This is called the honeymoon phase, a time where everything feels fresh and exciting.
Couples who still have a great relationship even when the so-called magic fades have a better chance of doing great living together than those who don’t.
You already spend most of your time together.
When you’re spending so much time with your significant other, moving in seems like the next natural step. At this point, it just makes sense to live under one roof.
Not to mention, both of you can save precious time and energy. For one, there’s no more going back and forth to each other’s houses.
You can be your true selves around each other.
Every one of us has quirks. We just put our best foot forward at the beginning of the relationship so our partners won’t see our peculiar behavior.
But stay together long enough, and they sure will. Move in together, and you’ll experience each other’s idiosyncrasies every day.
If you still love each other to bits, then you’ll do just fine. It’s about knowing what annoys you about them, but still accepting and loving them anyway.
You’ve learned how to kiss and make up well.
All couples fight, no matter how hard we try to keep the peace. It’s impossible to always agree on everything.
If you’ve been with your special someone long enough, you’ve probably had more arguments than you can remember. And since there will be a lot of changes once you start living together, it’s possible you’ll have more arguments than usual.
But if you’ve figured out how to easily settle misunderstandings, then you won’t have to worry about having disagreements. You’ll get over them, stay together, and keep a happy home.
You’ve seriously talked about it.
Once you move in together, you’ll need to split the bills. There are electricity, gas, and groceries, just to name a few.
There are also certain rules you need to establish so everything stays peaceful. For example, how often can you have friends over?
Discussing these lets you set your expectations for each other, allowing yourselves to avoid getting in over your heads when you move in together and put your relationship at risk.
Lamudi’s #YourHeartIsHome Campaign
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